20 Best Ways to Support Moms After Loss

Losing a baby is one of the most devastating experiences a mother can face. And as friends, family, or professionals, we often wonder: What can I do? How can I help?

The truth is, support isn’t one-size-fits-all. Every mother’s grief journey is unique. But there are compassionate, practical ways we can come alongside moms in this pain. Supporting moms after loss requires a holistic approach that addresses their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs.

Here are 20 of the best ways to support moms after loss (and remember—always keep your scope of practice in mind. If something falls outside of your role, gently guide them toward the right resources).

**Before we jump in to this amazing list, I wanted to share about the picture I chose for this blog post. This photo shoot was suppose to be Evelyn's newborn photoshoot. And because we never got the opportunity to keep her and do the photos, I did a mommy and me photo shoot with my girls instead. To capture the love I still had and the moments that mattered most to me. This was 4 months after I lost Evelyn, November, 2019. On the outside I looked okay, but inside I was dying. These girls were my reason to keep going. I love them possibly more than they could ever know. 

Physically

1. Offer Practical Help
Step in with meals, laundry, school drop-offs, or errands. Lightening their daily responsibilities can give them breathing room to grieve.

2. Provide Self-Care Resources
Gift them with a massage, spa treatment, or even a simple relaxation kit. Gentle reminders of self-care can help them reconnect with their bodies.

3. Deliver Healthy Meals
Nutritious food is healing—yet cooking feels impossible in deep grief. Dropping off meals (or organizing a meal train) can make a huge difference.

4. Encourage Movement
Invite them for a slow walk or gentle yoga. Movement helps release stress and restore energy.

5. Support Medical Follow-Up
Offer to drive them to appointments or help with paperwork connected to the loss. Sometimes, just sitting in the waiting room with them can ease anxiety.

Mentally

6. Share Helpful Resources
Provide books, podcasts, or articles on grief and healing to help them feel less alone.

7. Encourage Professional Support
Normalize therapy and counseling. Suggest, “It might help to talk with someone trained to walk alongside you through this.”

8. Create a Safe Space
Listen without judgment, advice, or fixing. Sometimes the best gift is simply sitting in silence and witnessing their pain.

9. Normalize Grief
Remind them that grief is a natural response to loss. Nothing is “wrong” with them—they are navigating the most human of experiences.

10. Share Coping Tools
Offer gentle ideas like journaling, breathwork, or mindfulness practices that may help them process overwhelming emotions.

Emotionally

11. Validate Their Pain
Say things like, “Your grief is real. Your baby mattered. And your feelings are valid.”

12. Recommend Grief Groups
Point them toward local or online support groups where they can meet others who “get it.”

13. Check In Regularly
Send a simple text: “I’m thinking of you. No need to reply.” These small touches matter more than you know.

14. Create Memory Keepsakes
Help them design memory boxes, order jewelry, or make photo albums to honor their baby.

15. Encourage Creative Expression
Art, music, or writing can provide an outlet for emotions that words can’t fully capture.

Spiritually

16. Offer Spiritual Guidance (If Desired)
If they’re open, connect them with a faith leader, mentor, or community that brings comfort.

17. Suggest Mindfulness & Meditation
Guided meditations or breathwork can bring moments of inner peace.

18. Encourage Time in Nature
A walk outdoors, planting a tree, or sitting in the sun can help them feel connected to something greater.

19. Rituals and Ceremonies
Offer to help plan or participate in a ritual—whether it’s lighting candles, releasing lanterns, or hosting a remembrance gathering.

20. Encourage Reflection
Journaling and/or quiet time, can help them find meaning in the midst of pain.

Supporting moms after losing a baby requires sensitivity, empathy, and flexibility. No one expects you to have all the answers. What matters most is that you show up—with presence, patience, and love.

Grief is lifelong, but so is love. Your willingness to walk alongside a mom in her loss can make a lasting difference in her healing journey.

 

💛 Stay Connected + Resources

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